How to Ask for Feedback that Actually Helps

Stop tiptoeing around it and start seeking what you need.

Hello and happy Friday! :)

Feedback exchange tends to be slightly sensitive topic in the workplace, especially for younger professionals starting out their careers.

I think a lot of us would agree experiencing a certain level of anxiety or uncertainty when it comes to both giving and receiving feedback. And the thing is, most times we don’t realise what we’re missing out on when receiving feedback, because the pre-existing anxiety doesn’t drive us to ask:

“Is this feedback actually helpful?”

You don’t know what you don’t know, and this void can often lead to missed opportunities for growth and improvement.

It's a shame because, like it or not, we all need feedback to grow. We have to learn to take it as a regular part of professional development rather than an occasional event.

I’ve had plenty feedback exchanges over the years, and lot of times been guilty of not effectively communicating what I need too, be it while receiving or giving feedback to someone else.

This conversation has taught me a lot about communication at the workplace itself.
Learn from my experience:

1. Ask the Right People

First and foremost. Actionable, helpful feedback will only come from people who have relevant experience and perspective. Don’t fall for feedback from anyone and everyone. If you’re looking for feedback on a marketing strategy, consult someone with marketing expertise rather than a general colleague.

2. Be Specific with Your Request

MOST important. We all think we know this but we don’t act on it enough. The more specific you are, the more actionable the feedback will be. If you haven’t, try something as focused as, "Can you provide feedback on my recent presentation, particularly on my delivery and the clarity of my points?"

It proves to your manager/peer/friend that you are confident in your clarity about where you stand and what you lack.

3. Choose the Right Time and Place

This is me saying this as a 3-time founder leading teams: timing and environment matter. Opt for a time when the person giving feedback isn’t rushed and can provide thoughtful input. A specific request made at the right time leads to more honest and constructive responses.

4. Prepare to Listen and Reflect

Receiving feedback can be challenging, and most of us by instinct get defensive. Feedback shouldn’t be taken personally. Redirect your focus to look at it as actionable advice for your improvement.

5. Act and Follow Up

Post receiving feedback, follow up with the individual to let them know exactly how you’ve implemented their suggestions. If you’ve followed the steps above and chosen the right person to receive it from, this will let them know their words were taken seriously, and ensure more real and helpful feedback in the future.

Bonus: Incorporate Feedback in Everyday Activities

Think about routine activities in your daily life that could benefit from feedback. For example, if you’re transitioning to a remote work setup, ask your team for feedback on communication tools or workflow processes. This helps you spot everyday needs and come up with solutions that really work

Happy feedback-gathering everybody :)
Have a great weekend!